For the record….

Sorry, but I gave up trying to justify with Mr Rhodes posts and his personal attacks a while ago.

I have been nothing but civil whilst he continued to fabricate stories and lies about me.

So feel free to ignore this post, all I want to do is have a right to respond and show that I’m not the person he seems to have invented.

I can only assume it came from my decision to unfriend him on Facebook after some fairly unsavoury posts started appearing in my timeline originating from his account, I didn’t want to associate myself with these posts, so instead of arguing (rare for me), and taking his condition into account, I decided to just unfriend him and go quietly rather than make a scene or challenge any of his posts.

This happened long before his statement below “he blocked me cos I threatened him Lol”.

That comment speaks a thousand words for me.

I have at no point ever been “vile” with Mr Rhodes, and I’ve copied my Facebook messenger conversation with him below (this happened after his “remind you of anyone post”), which hopefully goes in someway to clear my name in what has become a pointless effort of targeted abuse and lies from him.

Personally I tend to let things be if someone unfriends me because of my liberal leftie approach to life and the way I treat people. I don’t continue a campaign to attempt to defer their character with made up falsehoods and accusations.

This is known as “defamation of character” or “libel”, and unfortunately I will be treating it as what it is.

This is why I have chosen to post this information to the Public Domain for the record.

I would ask Mr Rhodes to remove his posts, and cease this elaborate story and creation of an invented persona that does not in anyway represent me or my actions.

If this happens then I will be happy and no further action will take place.

Regards – Dave.B

Without Prejudice



Copied from Facebook messenger conversation above for clarity.

ME :
HI MATE, I HOPE YOU ARE WELL. PLEASE UNDERSTAND I WAS VERY GRATEFUL FOR YOUR BACON, WHEN YOU REFUSED PAYMENT AT THE TIME I IMMEDIATELY MADE A £20 DONATION TO THE ALZHEIMER’S SOCIETY ONLINE, THEN A COUPLE OF WEEKS LATER AT THE BIG MEAT MADE ANOTHER £20 DONATION IN THE COLLECTION BUCKET. APOLOGIES IF THE FRIEND DELETION OFFENDED AND UPSET YOU, BUT I LIKE TO THINK WE ARE ALL ALLOWED A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF FREEDOM OF CHOICE WHEN IT COMES TO WHAT I WANT POPPING UP IN MY NEWS FEED. I CERTAINLY WILL NEVER LET MY STANDARDS DROP SO FAR THAT I REVERT TO POSTING PERSONAL INSULTS TO TRY TO SHAME A FRIEND IN FRONT OF A BUNCH OF FRIENDS. I CERTAINLY DON’T GET WOUND UP WHEN SOMEONE UNFRIENDS ME FOR DIFFERING VIEWS. I GUESS I MAY BE ANTI FASCIST, ANTI RACIST AND PRO EUROPE, AND THAT MAY ALIGN WITH THE SNOWFLAKE GENERATION IN YOUR EYES, BUT I’M HAPPY TO BE A SNOWFLAKE IF HELPS STAMP OUT HATE. I’M SORRY YOU WERE SO UPSET WHEN I UNFRIENDED YOU, BUT PLEASE LET IT GO. I HAVE NO BEEF (OR PORK !!) WITH YOU AT ALL, TRUST ME. I’M QUITE HAPPY TO REMAIN FRIENDS, EVEN AFTER ALL THE LITTLE POKES I’VE SEEN. STAY SAFE, AND STAY WELL CHIEF.

MEL :
IT GOT TO ME WHEN YOU UNFRIENDED BUDDY AND HIS POSTS BECAUSE LET’S BE PERFECTLY FRANK THAT’S WHY YOU UNFRIENDED ME FOR. IT FEELS LIKE I’M OR BUDDY IS BEING VICTIMISED AND BUDDY IS BEING IF I CAN BE HONEST RACIALLY ABUSED BECAUSE OF HIM. I HAVE A HARD ENOUGH TIME AS IT IS TRYING TO BE NORMAL ME. MOST CAN TELL IF IT’S ME GOOD HONEST MEL POSTING OR BUDDY.
MY LIFE IS BLOODY HARD HARDER THAN YOU CAN EVER BEGIN TO IMAGINE AND I NEED ALL THE FRIENDS I CAN GET TO HELP ME THROUGH MY DAY TO DAY LIFE THAT’S WHY I’M UPSET IN LOSING WHAT I THOUGHT WAS A VERY GOOD FRIEND IN YOU.
I KNOW WE HAVE DIFFERENCES OVER EUROPE, I ACCEPT YOUR CHOICE BUT MY CHOICE IS ME LOSING MONEY ON MY HUGE AMERICAN PENSION FUND. I CAN’T IMPORT ACROSS WHILST WE’RE IN EUROPE BUT THEY WILL TAKE SOME, STEAL FROM ME AND PAY IT INTO THEY’RE BUREAUCRATS PENSION FUND, NOW THAT’S NOT RIGHT. 2 OF THE BIGGEST SUPPORTERS OF EUROPE AGREE WITH ME.
YES I’M AND BUDDY IS UPSET LOSING YOU AS A FRIEND, GOOD LUCK IN THE FUTURE

ME :
JUST LAY OFF THE PERSONAL INSULTS PLEASE. IT’S NOT SOMETHING I’D EVER DO, AND NOT SOMETHING I’D EXPECT ANYONE IN THE BBQ COMMUNITY TO DO. NO MATTER WHO YOU CHOOSE TO BLAME. THOSE COMMENTS REALLY UPSET ME THIS MORNING, NO MATTER WHO YOU BLAME THEM ON.

MEL :
HOW THE HELL CAN I STOP BUDDY, IF YOU KNOW THEN TELL ME. IF YOU’RE UPSET THEN HOW DO YOU THINK IT MAKES ME FEEL JUST ANSWER THAT

ME :
SORRY MATE. I HAVEN’T INSULTED OR ACCUSED ANYONE IN PUBLIC. WE ALL SUFFER OUR DEMONS. I LOOKED AFTER MY GRANDFATHER FOR JUST OVER TEN YEARS WHEN HE DEVELOPED ALZHEIMER’S AND THEN SEVERE CARDIOVASCULAR DEMENTIA. SO I APPRECIATE WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, REALLY I DO, I DON’T HAVE ANY MIRACLE CURE, I WISH I DID, I’VE SEEN FIRST HAND WHAT IT DOES. BUT I’M ASKING PLEASE DON’T MAKE INSULTS OR FALSE ACCUSATIONS IN AMONGST A BUNCH OF FRIENDS. IT’S NOT SOMETHING I’D DO. NO MATTER HOW MUCH I HATED THEM. HURT AND UPSET IS FELT BY EVERYONE, NOT JUST YOU. IT SOUNDS LIKE FACEBOOK IS WINDING YOU UP WITH ITS CURRENT CLIMATE OF CONSTANT ARGUING. MAYBE GOOD FOR YOU AND YOUR HEALTH TO LAY OFF IT FOR A WHILE. I DID THIS FOR A FEW WEEKS AGO A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO. IT HELPED ME RESET AND MADE ME RE EVALUATE WHAT I POST AND REACT TO. AGAIN. I DON’T WANT TO ENTER INTO ANOTHER ARGUMENT HERE. PLEASE LOOK AFTER YOURSELF, PLEASE DON’T POST ANY MORE UNFOUNDED PERSONAL INSULTS. IT’S UNBECOMING AND NOT NEEDED.

MEL :
I HAVE 3 TYPES, INFLAMMATORY CORTICAL ALZHEIMER’S, FRONTOTEMPORAL ALZHEIMER’S AND CARDIOVASCULAR DEMENTIA WITH AN EXPECTED 3 YEARS, PERHAPS THIS EXPLAINS MY AND BUDDY’S MOUTH

ME :
HI MEL. UNDERSTOOD, IT’S NOT A COMPETITION AND YOU DON’T NEED TO TRY AND JUSTIFY YOURSELF. JUST PLEASE LEAVE OFF THE INSULTS AND TRYING TO JUSTIFY THEM BY CLAIMING IT WAS ANOTHER PERSON TALKING. I’VE NEVER ONCE INSULTED YOU IN PRIVATE OR PUBLIC. SO PLEASE JUST LAY OFF THE DETERMINED EFFORT TO TRY AND MAKE OUT I’M SOME SORT OF EVIL BASTARD IN PUBLIC. I’M NOT. I LIKE TO TRY AND GET ALONG WITH EVERY ONE. I CERTAINLY DON’T DESERVE THE PUBLIC COMMENTS YOU’VE MADE. AGAIN, I WISH YOU WELL. AND PLEASE JUST GIVE IT A REST, PLEASE.

MEL :
YES I’LL LEAVE OFF NOW BUT CLAIMING NOW THAT’S AN INSULT IN ITSELF.
PLEASE DON’T EVER TRY TALKING TO ME AGAIN EVEN AT BBQ EVENTS.
NOW GO FORTH AND MULTIPLY.
I HAVE AN EVIL STREAK YOU DO NOT WANT TO SEE, BELIEVE ME.